I know, there are a lot of people who think of promiscuity as something natural, even cultural in some places.
In my view, everyone is free to do whatever they please as long as they don’t harm anyone. As long as the people involved are adult and in mutual agreement, they can do whatever they want.
In my personal experience, I met people who promised love and wanted a committed relationship but they were not willing to offer the same. So, when you discover that your partner has been cheating on you, your Disney-like fantasy world falls apart in no time.
For some people cheating or betraying, as they say in Italy, it’s not a big deal. But it is.
From my point of view, if your partner sleeps with someone else and doesn’t have the courage to tell you, it’s a clear sign that that person cannot be trusted.
It is the lie the hurts the most.
My experience with cheaters is that they no longer have the strength to look into your eyes while making love or holding hands. They know they are lying – mainly to themselves.
Behavioral change is the first symptom to inform you about a possible betrayal. Other symptoms include: getting angry for no reason, blaming you for whatever and acting suspicious.
They break people’s heart because they think it would be even worse to confess their betrayal. But it’s not.
Telling the truth is the highest form of love.
In my modest experience, I found out that cheaters are compulsive liars and cannot be trusted – let alone setting up a family with them.
I think that such people should pair up with people like them and not those who, like me, truly believe that faithfulness is an indispensable value to build up a relationship together no matter what your sexual orientation is.
Nowadays, monogamy is seen as a dysfunction but to me, being in a committed relationship and cheating on my partner would be like declaring of being vegan and having meat every now and then.
Decide who you want to be and stick with it!